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XXx>ÔÓ  ÓThe€Most€Important€Key€In€Rearing€Children€to€LiveÐ ”ä ÐFor€the€LordÐ ôD ÐPart€TwoÐ T ¤ ÐÌÓD ÓÔ€Wx>X ƒÂ?ÔÓ  ÓMalachi€4:5-6,€ð ðBehold,€I€will€send€you€Elijah€the€prophet€before€the€coming€of€the€great€andÐ #d Ðdreadful€day€of€the€LORD:€And€he€shall€turn€the€heart€of€the€fathers€to€the€children,€and€theÐ $P Ðheart€of€the€children€to€their€fathers,€lest€I€come€and€smite€the€earth€with€a€curse.ððÐ ì$<  ÐÌó óI€said€last€time,€Kim€and€I€are€at€the€time€of€our€life€where€we€are€looking€back€to€see€what€we€didÐ Ä&"! Ðwrong€and€right€in€the€rearing€of€our€children.€Of€course,€over€time,€dealing€with€people,€and€theÐ °'#" Ðstudy€of€Godððs€Word€we€keep€learning€more.€What€could€we€have€done€differently?€Where€did€weÐ œ(ì## Ðmake€mistakes?€What€good€things€did€we€accomplish?€Last€time€we€said€the€most€important€issueÐ ˆ)Ø$$ Ðin€child€rearing€is€to€ò òòòget€the€heartóóÔbÕ Ô€ÔbmÔó óof€the€child€and€ò òòòkeep€the€heartóóÔb^ Ô€Ôb¹Ôó óof€the€child,€Proverbs€23:26.Ð t*Ä%% ÐUnfortunately,€many€Christian€parents€have€never€heard€this€or€do€not€understand€the€importanceÐ d+´&& Ðof€it.Ð ° ÐÌOver€the€more€than€30€years€I€have€been€a€Christian,€I€have€seen€more€fear€in€the€lives€of€parents€onÐ ˆØ Ðthis€subject€of€child€rearing€than€anything€else.€I€have€also€seen€more€confusion,€pain,€and€disasterÐ tÄ Ðrelating€to€this€than€anything€else.€The€devil€has€done€a€good€job€here€because€most€Christian€parentsÐ `° Ðare€utterly€confused€on€the€issue.€Many€Pastors€are€also€confused€on€the€issue.€More€children€growÐ L œ Ðup€in€Christian€homes€and€do€not€serve€the€Lord€than€do€grow€up€and€serve€the€Lord.€In€fact,€theÐ 8 ˆ Ðstatistics€are€staggering.Ð $ t ÐÌMalachi€4:6,€ð ðAnd€he€shall€turn€Ôb  Ôò òthe€heart€of€the€fathers€ÔbMÔó óto€the€children,€and€Ôb  Ôò òthe€heart€of€theÐ ü L  Ðchildren€to€their€fathersÔbÔó óð8ðððÐ ì <  ÐÌRebellion€in€a€child€is€not€normal,€it€is€Satanic.€Ephesians€6:6,€ð ðð8ðÔb  Ôò òdoing€the€will€of€God€from€theÐ È  Ðheartðð.€ÔbeÔó óIf€you€do€not€have€the€childððs€heart,€you€have€the€potential€for€rebellion€and€terrible€horribleÐ ¸  Ðthings€occur€when€that€happens.€The€one€who€has€the€childððs€heart€will€eventually€have€his€life€andÐ ¨ø  Ðhis€loyalty.Ð ”ä  ÐÌI€hope€you€noticed€the€matter€in€Malachi€4:6€about€turning€the€heart€of€the€children€to€their€fathers.Ð l¼ ÐWhoever€has€the€heart€will€eventually€have€the€child.€Folks,€there€are€four€things€about€the€heart€thatÐ X¨ Ðare€very€important:Ð D” ÐÌÓ€ (xx83ÓÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\{ÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú1Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Pray€for€and€ask€God€daily€to€give€you€your€childððs€heart.݃±\{´ÝŒÐl(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\‚ÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú2Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€The€heart€can€be€lost.݃±\‚»ÝŒÐX(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\bÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú3Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€The€heart€can€be€hardened.݃±\b›ÝŒÐôD(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\FÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú4Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€The€heart€can€be€stolen.݃±\FÝŒÐà0(#(# ÐŒÝ  Ýà0  àÐ (#(# ÐItems€two€through€four€is€the€pattern€a€child€goes€through€to€rebellion€and€it€happens€in€that€order.Ð ¸ ÐChildren€will€not€give€their€hearts€to€their€parents€(remember€your€goal€in€life€as€a€parent€is€to€getÐ ¤ô Ðand€keep€their€heart)€until€they€see€their€parents€as€just,€Luke€1:17,€ð ðto€the€wisdom€of€the€justðð.€TheÐ à Ðnumber€one€characteristic€of€wisdom€is€justice.€When€parents€are€seen€by€children€as€being€just,€thenÐ |Ì Ðthe€children€feel€free€to€trust€their€hearts€to€the€parents.€Then€ð ðthe€disobedient€(children€Luke€1:17)Ð h ¸ Ðbecomes€open€to€the€wisdom€of€the€justðð.Ð T!¤ ÐÌYoung€people€are€not€ready€for€God€to€work€in€their€hearts€until€their€hearts€are€turned€fromÐ ,#|! Ðthemselves€to€their€parents.€When€a€teenager€gets€right€with€his€parents,€he€finds€it€easy€to€get€rightÐ $h" Ðwith€God€at€the€same€time.€His€biggest€problem€in€surrendering€to€the€Lord€is€surrendering€his€heart,Ð %T # Ðwill,€and€emotions€to€his€parents.Ð ð%@!$ ÐÌListen€carefully;€a€parent€who€is€led€by€his€or€her€emotions€will€lead€their€children€into€sin€everyÐ È'#& Ðtime.€What€I€am€talking€about€here€is€illustrated€in€the€Bible€with€the€story€of€Absalom€and€DavidÐ ´($' Ðin€II€Samuel€13-15.€Because€David€lost€Absalomððs€heart,€his€heart€was€hardened€and€he€rebelledÐ  )ð$( Ðagainst€his€father.€David€surely€did€not€understand€the€damage€he€had€done€to€the€heart€of€his€child.Ð Œ*Ü%) ÐIn€fact,€he€ignored€him.€Absalom€in€turn€stole€the€hearts€of€the€people€and€turned€their€hearts€againstÐ x+È&* ÐDavid.€(II€Samuel€15:1-6).€What€a€story€of€pain,€agony,€and€disaster.€The€same€type€of€story€is€playedÐ ° Ðout€in€many€Christian€homes€with€some€variation.€FolksÔb  Ô,ò ò€Ôb©$Ôòòremember€the€heart€of€every€spiritualÐ œì Ðproblem€is€a€matter€of€the€heartóóÔb®Ô.Ôb*%ÔÐ ŒÜ ÐÌó óOne€of€the€most€important€statements€I€can€make€is€this:€ò òòòThe€key€ingredient€is€to€get€the€childððsÐ d´ Ðheart€early€and€to€keep€their€heart.€Donððt€lose€their€heart€and€if€you€do,€find€out€where€you€lostÐ T ¤ Ðit€quickly.€Go€get€it€back€quickly€no€matter€what€it€takes€to€get€itó ó.óó€A€little€later€in€this€series€I€willÐ @  Ðtalk€about€turning€around€a€rebellious€child€and€how€you€get€the€childððs€heart€back.€It€can€be€doneÐ 0 € Ðif€a€parent€understands€the€matter€of€the€heart€and€is€willing€to€pay€the€price€to€do€it.Ð  l ÐHebrews€3:10,€ð8ðððthey€do€always€err€in€their€heartðð.€The€reason€that€most€children€who€grow€up€inÐ  X  ÐChristian€homes€do€not€live€for€God€is€the€parents€do€not€have€the€heart€of€the€child€or€they€had€theÐ ô D  Ðheart€of€the€child€and€they€lost€the€heart€of€the€child.Ð à0  ÐÌWhen€we€see€defiance€and€rebellion€we€really€do€not€understand€what€is€going€on€underneathÐ ¸  Ðeverything.€You€have€lost€the€heart€of€the€child€at€this€point!€I€can€hear€some€one€now€say,€why€didÐ ¤ô  ÐI€lose€it?€We€will€cover€that€a€little€later.Ð à  ÐÌWhy€is€it€such€a€big€deal€about€the€heart?€The€heart€controls€everything€about€the€life.€It€is€much€likeÐ h¸ Ðthe€physical€heart€which€is€the€most€vital€organ€of€the€body.€You€could€lose€your€leg€or€arm€andÐ T¤ Ðliveð8ðbut€that€is€not€true€of€the€heart!Ð @ ÐÌFolks,€the€word€heart€(spiritual)€occurs€about€900€times€in€the€Word€of€God.€If€you€lose€their€heart,Ð h Ðyou€lose€their€respect.€If€you€have€their€heart,€you€can€teach€them€and€protect€them.€Remember,Ð T Ðwhoever€has€the€heart€eventually€has€the€child.Ð ð@ ÐÌI€have€seen€many€hearts€of€young€people€get€stolen€and€the€parents€do€not€even€know€it!€Years€ago,Ð È Ða€young€lady€in€our€church€was€going€into€her€senior€year€of€high€school.€Her€mother€called€me€oneÐ ´ Ðafternoon€and€asked€if€she€and€Mary€could€come€by€and€see€me.€We€set€up€a€time,€and€they€cameÐ  ð Ðby.€Mary€and€her€mother€were€in€tears,€as€mom€explained€she€and€her€husband€were€going€away€forÐ ŒÜ Ða€week€on€an€anniversary€cruise.€She€stated€that€she€and€her€husband€had€had€several€conversationsÐ xÈ Ðwith€Mary€about€staying€home€alone.€Mom€stated,€ð ðWe€want€Mary€to€stay€with€you€and€Kim€for€theÐ d ´ Ðweek,€because€we€cannot€trust€herðð.€At€this€point€Mary€and€mom€were€bawling.€I€found€myself€onÐ P!  Ðthe€horns€of€a€dilemma.€Mary€had€no€interest€in€staying€with€us€for€a€week.€She€also€had€no€interestÐ <"Œ  Ðin€obeying€her€father€and€mother.€You€understand€at€this€point€mom€and€dad€had€lost€the€heart€ofÐ (#x! Ðtheir€daughter€and€did€not€know€it.€Of€course,€mom€and€dad€were€concerned€because€of€the€behaviorÐ $d" Ðof€their€daughter€who€grew€up€in€church€and€had€gone€to€a€Christian€school€all€her€life.Ð %P # ÐÌI€asked€mom€why€she€did€not€trust€her€daughter,€and€her€answer€was€revealing,€ð ðBecause€I€do€notÐ Ø&("% Ðtrust€what€I€have€seen€with€her€and€her€boy€friendðð.€Mary€had€had€a€boy€friend€since€she€was€aÐ Ä'#& Ðfreshman€in€high€school.€Of€course,€this€was€acceptable€behavior€with€the€parents€and€kids€in€theÐ °($' ÐChristian€school€she€attended€even€though€her€Pastor€had€spoke€and€showed€from€the€Bible€manyÐ œ)ì$( Ðtimes€that€girls€and€boys€do€not€need€to€be€involved€at€this€point€because€they€will€give€their€heartÐ ˆ*Ø%) Ðto€each€other.€When€that€happens€the€parents€are€in€trouble€and€the€child€is€in€spiritual€trouble.Ð t+Ä&* ЇMary€stayed€with€us€that€week.€It€was€a€difficult€week€and€it€sought€to€only€push€her€farther€awayÐ ° Ðfrom€the€heart€of€her€parents€to€the€heart€of€her€boy€friend.€Her€heart€was€now€hardened€and€thereforeÐ œì Ðit€was€stolen€by€her€boy€friend.€This€was€a€young€man€who€grew€up€in€a€Christian€home€and€in€aÐ ˆØ ÐChristian€school.€He€told€her,€ð ðShe€did€not€have€to€listen€to€her€parents€or€her€Pastorðð.Ð tÄ Ðò òREBELLION!€ó óMom€and€Dad€still€did€not€see€it€when€I€explained€what€the€problem€was.€TheyÐ `° Ðwanted€their€daughter€to€be€socially€acceptable.€They€lost€their€daughter.€Disaster€happened€whenÐ P   Ðmom€and€dad€encouraged€her€to€go€to€a€Bible€College€when€she€graduated.€She€wanted€to€be€withÐ < Œ Ðher€boy€friend€and€he€had€her€heart.€The€sadness€is€many€Christian€parentððs€think€it€is€cute€when€inÐ ( x Ðfact€it€goes€against€the€matter€of€the€heart.€The€pain€this€family€suffered€was€immense.€Of€course,Ð  d Ðthe€parents€blew€me€off€when€I€told€them€when€she€was€in€9òòth€óógrade€that€this€was€a€recipe€for€aÐ  P  Ðdisaster.€Many€times€they€heard€me€preach€about€this€and€felt€it€did€not€apply€to€them€and€theirÐ ì <  Ðhome.€They€some€how€thought€they€were€different.€They€did€not€understand€that€the€heart€is€a€veryÐ Ø(  Ðdelicate€matter.Ð Ä  ÐÌFolks,€that€is€the€reason€why€the€world€all€around€us€is€working€to€tie€the€hearts€of€children€with€aÐ œì  Ðwhole€bunch€of€things,€I€John€2:15.€The€world€is€continually€trying€to€tie€the€heart€of€the€child€to€theÐ ˆØ  Ðbabysitter,€friends,€television,€school€teachers,€cartoon€figures,€sports€stars,€and€rock€stars.Ð tÄ ÐSatan€also€uses€the€boy€friend-girl€friend€craze€to€steal€the€hearts€of€the€children€from€the€parentððsÐ `° Ðpermanently.Ð Lœ ÐÌThe€sadness€in€our€day€is€how€utterly€blinded€parents€are.€They€encourage€their€13,€14,€15,€and€16Ð $t Ðyear€olds€to€look€for€boy€friends€and€girl€friends.€We€must€teach€them€that€the€heart€is€a€delicateÐ ` Ðmatter€and€they€are€ò òòòto€give€their€hearts€and€emotions€to€only€one€person€in€lifeóóó ó.€It€is€no€wonderÐ üL Ðthe€Christian€home€is€in€such€a€mess.Ð ì< ÐÌI€have€had€many€parents€ask€me,€ð ðWhen€the€disaster€took€place€what€happened?ðð€At€the€time€if€youÐ Ä Ðexplained€it€to€them€they€would€get€angry€at€you€and€it€is€your€fault.€Or€even€if€you€explain€it€to€themÐ ° Ðwhen€the€disaster€hits€they€still€are€mad€and€angry€and€unwilling€to€see€the€need€and€what€they€mustÐ œì Ðdo€to€get€their€childððs€heart€back.€They€believe€they€have€done€what€they€could€do.€They€are€angryÐ ˆØ Ðbecause€their€heart€is€broken€over€the€rebellion€of€their€child,€the€behavior€of€their€child,€and€the€lackÐ tÄ Ðof€spiritual€interest€of€their€child.Ð ` ° ÐÌThe€heart€can€be€lost.€Many€parents€violate€the€only€negative€command€in€the€Bible€in€respect€toÐ 8"ˆ  Ðtheir€children€and€they€lose€the€childððs€heart.€Folks,€I€guarantee€you€if€you€violate€this€command€youÐ $#t! Ðwill€lose€the€childððs€heart.€That€command€is€in€Ephesians€6:4,€ð ðAnd€ye€fathers,€provoke€not€yourÐ $`" Ðchildren€to€wrathð8ððð€The€word€wrath€means€a€strong€desire€to€avenge.€Folks,€the€biggest€way€theÐ ü$L # Ðparents€lose€the€heart€of€their€child€is€through€the€ungodly€anger€of€one€or€both€of€the€parents.€TheÐ è%8!$ Ðcompanion€verse€to€this€is€in€Colossians€3:21.€Ungodly€anger€discourages€a€child.€Some€otherÐ Ô&$"% Ðcompanion€verses€are:€Ephesians€4:26-27,€James€1:20,€Psalm€37:8,€Galatians€5:19-20€and€EphesiansÐ À'#& Ð4:31€which€says,€Ôb  Ôò òð ðÔbØCÔòòLet€ALL€wrath€and€angerð8ð.be€put€away€from€youóóÔbT@Ôð8ðððÔb1DÔÐ ¬(ü#' ÐÌó óSo€many€parents€display€anger€in€the€home.€The€child€may€do€what€you€say€because€they€are€afraidÐ ˆ*Ø%) Ðof€you,€but€their€heart€is€moving€away€from€you.€Ephesians€4:32€says,€ð ðAnd€be€ye€kind€one€toÐ t+Ä&* Ðanother,€tenderheartedð8ð.ðð€Does€your€child€see€you€as€kind€and€tenderhearted€or€as€an€angry€person?Ð ° ÐÌò òòòThere€is€no€place€for€ungodly€anger€in€the€Christian€life€especially€with€your€wife,€husband,Ð ˆØ Ðand€your€children!€We€are€to€be€controlled€by€the€Spirit,€Ephesians€5:18.€Being€angry€in€anÐ tÄ Ðungodly€manner€is€not€being€controlled€by€the€Spirit!€There€is€no€justification€for€it.óóÐ `° ÐÌó óI€do€not€know€how€many€times€I€have€heard€a€teen€that€is€rebellious€tell€me,€but€dad€comes€home€andÐ 8 ˆ Ðhe€is€just€mad€all€the€time.Ð $ t ÐWe€have€many€missionaries€come€to€our€church.€Many€of€the€missionaries€who€come€to€our€churchÐ  ` Ðyou€do€not€meet€until€they€arrive.€I€watch€how€they€interact€with€their€children,€wife,€and€husband.Ð ü L  ÐI€have€seen€some€angry€stuff€and€rebellious€children.€It€is€a€recipe€for€disaster€in€the€ministry€and€inÐ è 8  Ðtheir€home.Ð Ô$  ÐÌOne€of€the€first€things€I€ask€a€parent€who€is€having€difficulty€with€their€child€is,€ð ðDo€you€see€yourselfÐ ¬ü  Ðwith€an€angry€spirit?ðð€The€answer€will€tell€you€immediately.€I€have€had€people€who€got€mad€tryingÐ ˜è  Ðto€tell€me€they€did€not€have€an€angry€spirit!Ð „Ô  ÐÌOn€one€occasion,€I€had€been€counseling€a€couple€for€marital€problems€and€the€children€were€inÐ \¬ Ðrebellion.€I€stopped€by€the€home€unannounced€and€heard€yelling€and€screaming.€I€knocked€on€theÐ H˜ Ðdoor€and€one€of€the€children€let€me€in€with€rolling€eyes.€The€father€was€on€the€phone€with€the€motherÐ 4„ Ðand€both€were€yelling.€The€husband€handed€me€the€phone€and€said,€ð ðSee€what€I€have€to€deal€with?ððÐ  p ÐI€listened€for€a€minute€and€heard€some€awful€language€and€screaming€and€then€I€said€the€motherððsÐ  \ Ðname.€She€immediately€stopped€and€her€whole€disposition€changed.€Later€in€one€of€the€counselingÐ øH Ðsessions€with€the€12€year€old€boy,€he€said,€ð ðPastor,€I€wish€they€would€just€stop€yelling€at€each€otherÐ ä4 Ðand€us.€They€are€always€mad!ðð€This€couple€is€now€divorced,€involved€in€immoral€relationships,Ð Ð  Ðdrugs,€and€their€children€have€been€immoral€and€involved€in€drugs.€They€would€not€listen€when€theyÐ ¼  Ðwere€told€anger€was€destroying€their€marriage€and€their€children.Ð ¨ø ÐÌYou€may€say€I€do€not€get€angry€that€often.€Let€me€ask€you€this,€if€you€lived€by€a€volcano€how€wouldÐ €Ð Ðyou€feel€about€it€if€it€only€erupted€every€once€in€awhile?€ò òòòThere€is€no€place€at€all€at€any€time€forÐ l¼ Ðungodly€anger€in€your€home€or€the€Christian€life,€Ephesians€4:31óóÔb_KÔ.€ÔbcPÔThe€heart€is€much€tooÐ \ ¬ Ðdelicate€to€survive€the€catastrophic€situation€of€the€anger€of€the€parents.€I€have€found€thatÐ H!˜ Ðanger€is€a€sin€that€many€Christians€justify,€and€do€not€understand€the€damage€they€are€doingÐ 4"„  Ðspiritually€and€in€every€other€way€to€their€wife,€husband,€and€children.Ð  #p! ÐÌó óIn€the€next€article€we€will€see€what€anger€does,€how€the€Bible€describes€it,€and€how€to€deal€with€it.Ð ø$H # ÐIn€conclusion,€I€want€to€give€you€seven€things€I€have€found€that€cause€parents€to€lose€the€heart€of€theÐ ä%4!$ Ðchild.€Remember,€that€anger€is€by€far€the€most€often€problem€and€is€a€variable€in€some€of€these:Ð Ð& "% ÐÌÓ€ (xx88ÓÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\àSÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú1Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Criticizing€unjustly.݃±\àST݌Ш(ø#'(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\¿TÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú2Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Speaking€to€them€harshly.݃±\¿TøT݌Д)ä$((#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\¢UÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú3Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Teasing€excessively.݃±\¢UÛU݌Ѐ*Ð%)(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\€VÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú4Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Too€high€of€expectations.݃±\€V¹VÝŒÐl+¼&*(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\cWÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú5Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Insulting€them€publicly.݃±\cWœW݌а(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\EXÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú6Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Not€communicating݃±\EX~X݌Мì(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÓ€ (xx88ÓØ! !ØÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\ÂYÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú7Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Not€spending€time€with€them.݃±\ÂYûY݌ЈØ(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÌRemember€folks,€the€heart€issue€happens€in€the€order€I€pointed€out.Ð `° ÐÌÓ€ (xx88ÓÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\ƒ[ÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú1Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Heart€can€be€lost.݃±\ƒ[¼[ÝŒÐ8 ˆ(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\_\ÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú2Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€Heart€can€be€hardened.݃±\_\˜\ÝŒÐ$ t(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÝ"‚±\"ÝÝ  Ýà0  àÝ‚±\?]ÝÔ2xxÔÚ  Ú3Ú  Ú.Ô3  ÔÝ  Ý€The€heart€is€then€available€to€be€stolen.݃±\?]x]݌Р`(#(# ÐŒÝ  ÝÌÔ€ñE¤òXWx>ÔòòTerry€L.€Coomer€is€the€Pastor€of€Elwood€Bible€Baptist€Church,€and€the€Director€of€For€the€Love€of€the€FamilyÐ è 8  ÐMinistries.€He€has€also€served€as€the€Publisher€of€the€nationððs€fastest€growing€daily€newspaper.€Pastor€Coomer€holdsÐ ¬ü  ÐFamily€Conferences€in€the€local€church.€To€have€a€meeting€at€your€church€or€other€needs€he€may€be€contacted€at€(765)Ð pÀ  Ð552-1973,€ÔÿÔòòÔ‡ôE¤òòñE¤Ôtlcoomer@juno.comÔÿÔóó,€ÔÿÔòòÔ4‚Ý . 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